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Ripples #1092: To Listen

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Ripples #1092: To Listen
April 27, 2020

PEBBLE
To listen is to lean in softly with the willingness to be changed by what you hear.
-Mark Nepo, shared by Sandra in Kent, WA

BOULDER
One friend, one person who is truly understanding, who takes the trouble to listen to us as we consider a problem, can change our whole outlook on the world.
-Elton Mayo, shared by Holly, Phoenix, AZ

PONDER
To listen is to care: deep listening is a powerful way to demonstrate our willingness to support someone who is lonely, hurting, sad, and/or angry.

To listen is to grow: curious listening enlarges our knowledge base, giving us a wider view of specific topics and inching us toward a wiser, more informed maturity.

To listen is to learn: critical listening helps us understand why others might hold a different opinion than our own. It also provides clues about how to speak in a way that improves the odds they can hear, consider, and possibly even be influenced by our perspective.

To listen is to lead: comprehensive listening models the communication and connection skills we hope to transmit to those we lead whether we’re a supervisor, manager, parent, mentor, etc.

To listen is to love: empathetic listening affirms those who long to be heard, to be seen, to be validated.

Let’s up our listening game this week when we connect with those we lead, those we love and those we can learn from. Are you in?

Peace,
Paul
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Ripples #828: Just listen.

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Ripples #828: Just listen.
Apr 6, 2015

PEBBLE
Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you.
Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.
-unknown

BOULDER
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.
-Rachel Naomi Remen, shared by Mary in Peoria, AZ

PONDER
Listening is one of those precious skills that can help you out in just about every interpersonal interaction you ever have, and yet a skill we don’t usually get formal training in. Virtually every person you ever encounter EVER at least occasionally feels unheard or unnoticed; one of the very best gifts you can give them is to listen attentively to what they have to say.

It is useful when talking to a hurting friend, a frustrated colleague or even an annoying customer. Investing the first part of a conversation simply obsessed with listening to the other person often makes it easier to frame a response that is appropriate to the situation and that the person can hear. It helps in part to let your conversation partner vent out some of their stronger emotions AND it also helps to gather information to better understand the person and situation.

Even someone whose work is about talking and telling stories and helping people laugh and learn knows that his *first* job is listening carefully to what his clients are hoping people get out of the presentation, and ideally listening to the first few participants in the room describe how things are going for them and what they hope to gain from attending. Once I’ve done lots of LISTENING, it maximizes both the effectiveness and enjoyment of my speaking.

I hope you can spend a little extra energy on listening this week, and I hope it helps you increase both your effectiveness and your enjoyment on the job and/or in life.

Peace,
Paul
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